Princess Kali storytelling at Bare! Stories

During her last week living in Boston, Princess Kali was invited to headline at Bare! Stories, here’s a video of her part of the show!


CampOUT is accepting applications for Mentors!

CampOUT is now accepting applications for Mentors! CampOUT is a social and educational retreat for LGBTQA youth, held near Lovell, Maine.  It is a space designed for young people to connect, learn, and share ideas. CampOUT empowers youth to explore issues of social justice and develop strong community. Applications are due Friday, May 11, 2013.

Each session’s six Mentors are essential to CampOUT. We are seeking 2 volunteers who are energetic, engaging, and positive role models for Queer/LGBTQA young people. Mentors must have experience working with youth, appropriate boundaries, and passion for social justice issues.

In an effort to provide a comprehensive team of Mentors in both skill sets and identities, CampOUT is currently seeking applicants who identify as trans*women, people of color, and/or who hold a BSW or MSW.

Before applying, we highly suggest reviewing CampOUT’s website:

Apply here:

Lyndon Cudlitz

Founder & Director
CampOUT – August 2-4, 2013
Please note: Due to transitions this year, CampOUT will be holding only one session this summer for young people ages 18-22yrs. We apologize for any inconvenience. We are looking forward to exploring CampOUT’s growth in the year to come!

Power Exchange Summit

Friday, May 24, 2013 · 6:00 PM –
Sunday, May 26, 2013 · 4:00 PM
new upscale hotel

Columbus, OH – address released to event attendees   @ map

Cost: 3 full days for $69!
Dress code: As you wish

PXS is all things Power Exchange. Classes and workshops; social spaces and fun; we are building a space that allows for people who are interested in all kinds of power exchange relationships to come and explore our lifestyle.

More than just an event, this is a celebration of the Power Exchange relationship in its many forms.

Master/slave? Dom/sub? Owner/property? Gorean or Taken in Hand? Or something you have defined yourself? No matter what your style of Power Exchange, you belong!

An event unlike any other! The focus of PXS is power exchange relationships of any form. This isn’t an event about how we play, but how we live!

Find out more at

Use the code ‘celebrate’ when you register, and you’ll get 10% off the standard registration price!


Increase Your Skills as Spokesperson and Learn Media Strategy

Apply for our Speak Up! Media Training Intensive Workshop, which will take place in NYC the weekend of May 17-19. The workshop is designed to support participants to speak up from their own perspective and on issues that matter to them. Our seminar teaches participants to create strategic responses to media and public events. During the weekend, you will learn to:

  • evaluate press requests
  • create talking points and stick to them
  • decide on the best message for the audience
  • hold journalists to ethical standards
  • produce media products like press releases and letters to the editor
  • evaluate the risks and rewards of being “out”
  • be confident in an interview even when it gets weird
  • and more.

 Check out all the details and apply by April 16th here.


Cleo Dubois – Founder of Academy of SM Arts

cleoHow long have you been teaching?

I have been teaching for about 20 years

How did you get started in sex/kink education?

It started when Leather Conferences such as Living in Leather, National Leather association, Janus and several private BDSM venues asked me to present. I was on many discussion panels and then started to present BDSM/Kink subject I was especially passionate about.

Are there any topics that you consider your specialty?

Yes and they are all in the realm of BDSM/Kink:

– Flogging from mild to catharsis, timing, skills and energy awareness

– Caning from light to heavy

Both of these specialties not necessarily about punishment games but also about ritual, catharsis and healing

– Play piercing – technique, safety, energy, design,  intent, ritual

– Play piercing , needle pull – ritual, healing, connecting, spiritual journeying

– Energy, sensing, breath, moving into a partner  body with sm play

– Improvising role-play and keeping some humor about it all

– Scene dynamics, going on a BDSM journey together without script

– Negotiation, archetypes, play persona and role-play

– I also teach rope bondage a la twoknottyboys style


You’ve been a long time educator, leader and lifestyle player. Can you talk about the pro’s & con’s of pursuing a profession in the world of sexuality

Pro: if you are truly called to do it. do it. it is so satisfying to share your passions and help others find their way, find the intimacy and the beauty of consensual erotic explorations.

It is not a chosen path that will make you rich, or provide you with retirement, health insurance , paid vacation. Being an entrepreneur is not for everyone .. burning out can be an issue. and adaptation  to new marketing  technologies can be really stressful.


Have you seen any changes in the BDSM community education over the years?

Yes of course. There are many many venues, organized BDSM communities with meetings of all kinds, support group of ll types, conferences,  contests, on line learning  and live in the flesh classes. When I got into the lifestyle there was Janus and that was it, then Outcasts women only. Then Aids struck and sex got taken out of SM. The years of the plague were devastating.. and  some of us survived. Now there is a mix of tantra, BDSM and sex. Great! I love that!  There also seems to be many more folks interested in M/s…  and many broken hearts who have been collared and dismissed….

Since 50 shades there is an explosion of ‘advice’    pick and choose, buyer beware!


You founded The Academy Of SM Arts in 1995, what originally inspired you to create the intensives?

What I learned i learned from experiencing, topping, bottoming, orgasmic sex, pain, rituals, fantasies fulfillment… i stepped into  my dominant shoes, my caring sadistic shoes,  but also my masochistic heels and got on my knees and made mistakes and took risks. I wanted to teach  hands- on  in small groups . That is what the erotic dominance Intensives are about.  You do not just watch and listen, you do it.


Do you have any pet peeves about sex educators?

My main pet peeve is folks who do not give credit where credit is due. and also bad advise. Like these young woman telling  BDSM newbies that they will get kink education on Fetlife. Really, there i a lot there, a lot  that can really freak people out.

Encouraging  folks to find embodied  community, mentors  and get involved – not just online exchanges.


Do you have any last recommendations for aspiring sex educator?

You are doing a service to our sex negative society, share what you know, keep on learning, have fun and get paid for your work .



Kink Leaders Video Intro

If you’re curious about the Kink Leaders Program, here’s the intro video from the front page of the site.


Kink Leaders Program

Picture1Until April 5th, is still accepting applications.

Before anyone gets their undies in a bunch (that is, if you wear undies!) that the program is called “Kink Leaders” please understand the title needed to be short & snappy.

This year long program is useful for anyone wanting to become a leader in the BDSM, Kink, Poly or Gender communities.

Actually this program will be useful for anyone wanting to be a community leader of any kind, but the focus will be on Sexuality/Relationships/Gender based communities.

Participation requires about one hour of work a week, some weeks a bit less.

The program consists of:

+ Written Homework Assignments (posted every Monday)

+ Pre-Recorded Videos with discussion (posted every Thursday)

+ One on one conversations with Kali (individually scheduled)

+ A monthly webinar for group interaction (group scheduled)

+ Input & Contribution from Well Known Community Leaders

+ Extra suggested resources

+ Access to both &