The Next Level

iStock_000007813019SmallEverybody has to start somewhere. For most of us, we begin to present classes and workshops because we’re known for a particular skill set or a certain type of knowledge, and we teach what we know. Eventually, though, many of us come to the conclusion that we don’t want to just teach the same thing, over and over – we want to do something different, or expand our offerings, or just break out of the rut of being a “one trick pony”.

What do we do when we want to grow as an educator? Some people consider going back to school, or taking (often pricey) classes to help them get more credentials, but that’s not a possibility for everyone (nor is it even a good idea, depending on how much energy you want to give towards your experience as an educator). There are, however, some amazing things you can do without breaking the bank (or your schedule)! Here are some basic concepts for ongoing growth & improvement that you can use.

1. Read. Read everything you can get your hands on (and find interesting) that relates to sexuality. Read synopsis of things that you think you already know about. Read a review of things that aren’t that interesting. Every new piece of information that you learn has the potential to change how you teach, and to inspire you to teach something new.

2. Learn basic presentation skills, either by taking classes in it or reading books. Passion about your topics of choice will only get you so far; what makes an effective presenter is the ability to communicate information to others in a way that helps them learn & apply it to their own lives.

3. Go to workshops. Seriously. When you keep an open mind, you can always learn something new. At a recent educator’s series that I co-facilitated, a newer presenter taught a brief class on flogging – a topic that I normally get bored with pretty quickly. However, they had a technique that they demonstrated that I had never thought of, and I could immediately see ways to use to improve my ability to use a flogger. Look! An old dog CAN learn a new trick!

4. Be mentored. Ask someone to teach you the basics of a new skill, or the finer points of one that you already have. Work with another presenter to hone your abilities. Have friends edit, make suggestions, and give guidance to you when it comes to writing your bio, your handouts, and your class outlines. Even if you are always the “go-to” person, working with someone else can help expand both your range and your depth of knowledge.

5. Mentor someone else. Teaching one-on-one rather than one-on-many involves a different set of skills, and has more of an exchange of information than a usual classroom setting allows for. Often, people that mentor find that it improves their own skills – both as a technician, and as an educator.

6. Ask for feedback & ideas. I often get more inspiration out of comments, questions, and resources that attendees at my classes offer than I do out of my own reading. The ability to integrate the experiences (and lessons) of other people into our work allows us to offer a far wider perspective than we would otherwise be able to.

7. Stay humble. No matter how fantastic your skill set is, there is always room for a new technique, a new way of looking at things, or a better practice. As soon as we think we know it all, we close ourselves off to new experiences and risk becoming obsolete. And really – nobody wants to be “that person” that knows everything and eschews any other way of thinking.

8. Network with other educators. Nothing helps us plan our next steps like knowing what the options are, and our colleagues (whether non-professional or professional) are the ones who are already thinking about the same things we are. By sharing our experiences and asking each other questions, we can become better at finding our own direction & developing classes that we’re excited about.

By Sarah Sloane (originally posted on August/2011)


American Academy of Pediatrics Supports Same Gender Civil Marriage

American Academy of Pediatrics Supports Same Gender Civil Marriage


For Release:  March 21, 2013


The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) supports civil marriage for same-gender couples – as well as full adoption and foster care rights for all parents, regardless of sexual orientation – as the best way to guarantee benefits and security for their children.



The AAP policy statement, “Promoting the Well-Being of Children Whose Parents Are Gay or Lesbian,” and an accompanying technical report will be published in the April 2013 Pediatrics (published online March 21).


“Children thrive in families that are stable and that provide permanent security, and the way we do that is through marriage,” said Benjamin Siegel, MD, FAAP, chair of the AAP Committee on Psychosocial Aspects of Child and Family Health, and a co-author of the policy statement. “The AAP believes there should be equal opportunity for every couple to access the economic stability and federal supports provided to married couples to raise children.”


In a previous policy statement published in 2002 and reaffirmed in 2010, the AAP supported second-parent adoption by partners of the same sex as a way to protect children’s right to maintain relationships with both parents, eligibility for health benefits and financial security. The 2013 policy statement and accompanying technical report adds recommendations in support of civil marriage for same-gender couples; adoption by single parents, co-parents or second parents regardless of sexual orientation; and foster care placement regardless of sexual orientation.


“The AAP has long been an advocate for all children, and this updated policy reflects a natural progression in the Academy’s support for families,” said Ellen Perrin, MD, FAAP, co-author of the policy statement. “If a child has two loving and capable parents who choose to create a permanent bond, it’s in the best interest of their children that legal institutions allow them to do so.”


A great deal of scientific research documents there is no cause-and-effect relationship between parents’ sexual orientation and children’s well-being, according to the AAP policy. In fact, many studies attest to the normal development of children of same-gender couples when the child is wanted, the parents have a commitment to shared parenting, and the parents have strong social and economic support. Critical factors that affect the normal development and mental health of children are parental stress, economic and social stability, community resources, discrimination, and children’s exposure to toxic stressors at home or in their communities — not the sexual orientation of their parents.


According to the policy statement, the AAP “supports pediatricians advocating for public policies that help all children and their parents, regardless of sexual orientation, build and maintain strong, stable, and healthy families that are able to meet the needs of their children.”

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The American Academy of Pediatrics is an organization of 60,000 primary care pediatricians, pediatric medical subspecialists and pediatric surgical specialists dedicated to the health, safety and well-being of infants, children, adolescents and young adults. For more information, visit


Mollena Says: Join Kink Academy!

Mollena Williams shares why a membership to Kink Academy is a great investment!


Beyond Whips & Chains – American Medical Student Association

Beyond Whips & Chains – American Medical Student Association…/BeyondWhipsAndChains.sflb.ashx

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AMSA by the way is doing a nice job of educating medical students in human sexuality topics because so many medical schools still lack adequate instruction.   it is called the Sexual Health Scholars Program.


“Deep Inside”: A study of 10,000 adult film stars (9 Photos)

Article found here

New Members

Esinem: Shibari teacher and performer

I am a very experienced Japanese bondage (shibari/kinbaku) artist who teaches and performs internationally. My teachers include Yukimura Haruki, Osada Steve, Kazami Ranki, Kinoko Hajime and Arisue Go.

I am also author of ‘Japanese Rope Bondage: Tying people not parcels’ and a co-organiser of the London Festival of the Art of Japanese Bondage and BOUND, Europe’s premier monthly shibari event. My work has appeared on national and international TV, in videos and many prestigious publications including Vogue Italia, Skin Two, Wallpaper, SM Sniper, Sang Bleu and LOVE. One of my most recent collaborations was Primal Scream’s 2013 short film by Rei Nadal with Nick Knight as creative consultant.



Kink LINCS is a Leadership and Community Building Symposium is being held in the heart of downtown Seattle. If you are part of a Leather, BDSM, Kink, Fetish, Poly, Swing or other sex positive community and are interested in developing your leadership, teamwork, communication, and / or involvement in your specific community we have opportunities for you.

Kink LINCS is the place to come together and share common ground, network with and learn from each other, as well as share experiences, techniques and knowledge with the objective of “Forging Strong Communities”.

We invite you to join us. There are many great opportunities to get involved, including participating in outreach events, fundraisers, presenting at the conference, volunteering for the event or joining the Organizing Team.


Sex Keywords Galore!

Here is a huge list of keywords I use for KinkAcademy and PassionateU and thought it might be helpful for others!


Lube & Lubrication

lube, lubrication, masturbation, handjob, hand job, spit, slick, anal sex, dry, wet, liquid silk, KY jelly, astroglide, vagina, probe, vagina, anus, flavored lube, maxim, sextoys, sex toys, sex toys, sex toy,

slippery, condom, condoms, glycerin, yeast, paraffin free, lubricant, water-based lubes, silicon-based lubes, lick, cream-based lube, drippy, drip, hydro-smooth, maximus, gel-based lubes, oh my, glycerin-free, flavored lubes

jelly, juice, wank, spit, oil, lubricunt , vegetables

Introduction to Sex Toys

sex, dildo, vibrator, toys, dildos, anal, penis, orgasm, vibrators, vagina, sex toy, lesbians, masturbation, cock, pussy, cilt, clitoris, cunt, plastic, sex aids, vegetables, porno, strap on, positions, intercourse, jizz, fuck, orgasm, condom, toys, toy, pleasure, tease, vibrate, bullet, wand, rabbit, foreplay, sexual health

insertion, jelly latex, glass, Pyrex, hard plastic, flesh-light, flesh light, silicone, the cone, steel,

jelly latex, soft, cheap, materials, cyberskin, non-toxic, nontoxic, safe, nonporous, hard plastic, vinyl, aluminum, metal grade plastics, stainless steel, body-friendly, medically safe,

sex toys, sex toy, sextoys, sextoy, masturbation, hitachi, vagina, anus, anal sex, fucking, rabbit, vibrator, vibrating, vibration, self love, shopping, buying, shop, buy, order, foreplay, vibe, humping

shop, store, wankers, video, bullet, wand, rabbit, luxury, glass, clamp, massage, suction, wireless, silicone, latex, rubber, allergy, hypoallergenic, sexual health, couples, cock ring, waterproof, kit, beads, personal,

buying, price, internal use, external use, bullet, randy, phthalate, phthalate free, visual appeal, animal-theme, internal play, internal play, slum line, cone, magic wand, quiet, internal use, external use, stroking, tickling, stimulation, stimulating, dual stimulation, vibration style, spice up sex life, orgasm, price, type of play, shopping

Dual stimulation, penetration, erectile dysfunction, reasons for sextoys, penetrative toys, stimulation, G-spot stimulation, prostate stimulation, acrylic, pyrex, curve, curved toys, dual ends, vagina, smart balls, bum, anus, anal play, mouth, oral play, dildo, suck on dildo, dildos, kegel exercises, silicon, taint, grundle, perineum, sterilize, sterilized, strap-free strap on, strap-free strap ons, strap on, deep throat, stainless steel, sensation play, hot, cold, speculum, phallic, price, how to use, function, material, aesthetic, aesthetics

Tickling Toys
head massager, scrap, tip, toes, digging it in, head band, hair holder, feather duster, pens, writing on the feet, pointy stick, drink stirrer, pointy things, fondue fork, plastic fork, pizza box stand,

comb, dog toys, baby oil, slippery, sliding, ky jelly, lubricants, gardening work gloves, gardening tools, back scratcher, toy sharks,

caress, contact, flick, glance, graze, kiss, scrape, shave, skim, smooth, stroke, sweep,

play, playful, fun, tickle, tickling, finger, fingers, touch, intimate, intimacy, laugh, light, feather, ticklee, tickler, sensual, sadistic,

wrestling, fingers, knees, toes, soles, touch, sensation, cockle, pain, feet, orgasm, victim, laugh, giggle, groping, twitching, squirming, tickle top, rubbing,


caress, contact, flick, glance, graze, kiss, scrape, shave, skim, smooth, stroke, sweep,

play, playful, fun, tickle, tickling, finger, fingers, touch, intimate, intimacy, laugh, light, feather, ticklee, tickler, sensual, sadistic,

wrestling, fingers, knees, toes, soles, touch, sensation, cockle, pain, feet, orgasm, victim, laugh, giggle, groping, twitching, squirming, tickle top, rubbing,

Introduction to Tickling – Part 1
laughing, exploring, sensitivity, sensitive, squirm, neck, toes, light touching, light touch, freeze, experiment, experimenting, nose, nook and cranny, nails, skin on skin, fingernails, ribs, side, stomach, anticipation, scratching, navel, belly button

Introduction to Tickling – Part 2
hips, hip pocket, hip pockets, breasts, breast, boobs, boob, tits, skin, erogenous zone, best place to tickle, exploration, laughing, exploring, sensitivity, sensitive, sensitivity testing, squirm, female anatomy, legs, long legs, leg, long leg, ankle, ankles, circular motion, butt, buttocks, ass, thigh, back of leg, back of thigh, behind the knee, back of the knee, stretch, vulnerable, feet, tops of feet, feather, finger, fingers, toe curl, curling toes, curled toes, ticklish spots, behind the ears, ears, neck, nipple, nipples, stomach, ribs, side, navel, belly button, nooks and crannies, nook and cranny, calves, calf

Finger Tickling
finger, fingers, finger tips, squeezing, squeeze, one finger, multiple fingers, play, dig, digging, games, psychological bondage, rib bones, between rib bones, base of spine, wiggle, wiggling, knee, side of knee, finger nails, kneecap, sensitivity, sensitive, stomach, tickle workout, surprise, surprises, surprising, using your body for bondage, knuckles, hips, hip pocket, hip pockets, sensitivity, sensitive, sensitivity testing, squirm, wrestling holds

Face Slapping

edge play, taboo, intimate, intense, face, face slap, face slapping,  dominance, submission, power, fingers, punishment, hand, sensual sadistic, hit, strike, pimp slap, five fingers, slapper, backhand, ouch,corporal punishment, safety

Face Slapping Sensations and Motivations
versatility, classic punishment, verbal humiliation, emphasize point, emphasis, intimacy, power, intensity, vulnerable, vulnerability, shock, anger, humiliation, power, personal power, power exchange, psychological, physical, personal, intimate, mind fuck, slapping, punching, stinging, dizzy, dizziness, whiplash, tingling, eye-watering, emotions, degraded, degradation, preparation, how to gauge power, how to gauge force, extended face slapping, empowering, empowerment, adrenaline, eye contact, discuss, discussion, happy slapping, negotiate, negotiation, communication, corporal punishment, safety

Face Slapping Safety
discuss, discussion, negotiate, negotiation, communication, remove jewelry, no jewelry, flat hands, open hands, slapping, not punching, flexible, backhand, fingers, cheek, where to slap, face, steady, aiming, boxing ears, focused aim, focused motion, palm slapping, jaw, lockjaw, tmj, TMJ, support, neck injury, jaw injury, eye injury, ear injury, anger, control, out of control, flinch, flinching, practice, avoid flinching, hurt, communicating, fingernails, hand placement, firm but flexible, emergency, concussion,corporal punishment, safety,

Face Slapping Techniques and Positions
flat hands, open hands, slapping, firm slap, firm slapping, flexible, backhand, fingers, cheek, where to slap, face, steady, steady aim, aiming, focused aim, focused motion, support, prevent flinching, hand placement, firm but flexible, corporal punishment, cheek, cheeks, balance, imbalance, squish, slap-squish, intimate, body contact, eye contact, wall position, leg squeeze, safety,

Safe Sex

glove, rubber, protection, std, Trojan, pregnancy, birth control, jimmy, jimmy hat, johnny, contraceptive, prophylactic, aids, rain, coat, latex, bareback, magnum, semen, safe, jizz, safe sex, love glove, dental dam

All About Condoms
Latex, polyurethane, lambskin, sheepskin, durex, Trojan, flavored,  colored, wear a condom, put on a condom, black condoms, anal play, oral play, expense, feelings, masturbation, myth, myths, thin condom, lubricated condoms, ejaculation, semen, reservoir tip, pleasure, apply condom, pubic hair, condom removal, condom dismount, where to put used condoms, used condoms

Condom Usage
Put on condom with your mouth, put on condom with mouth, how to apply a condom with your mouth, right direction to roll a condom, lips, what destroys condoms, how to store condoms, condom storage, expiration date, when to check the expiration date, squeeze test, how to carry a condom, condom carrier


tie up, bind, bound, restraint, restrain, gimp, slave, femdom, domme, sub, submission, b&d, humiliation, masochism, sadist, sado-masochism, discipline, cuffing

decoration, bondage, lark’s head, lark’s head knot, rope skirt, suspension, hip, hips, leg, legs, waist, alternating lark’s head, larks head, larkshead, weight distribution, garter belt, symmetry, function, aesthetic, decorative,

foot, feet, slam, jumping, bounce, heels, high, stomping, podofilia, trample, step on, stand on,

S&M 24/7
power, power dynamics, SM, S&M, dominance, submission, dominate, submit, dominant, submissive, RT, real time, roles, partnership, relationship, full time, 24/7, lifestyle, life style

Power Dynamics
Domme, Dom, Dominant, Dominate, FemmeDomme, submissive, sub, submit, sub space, switch, slave, servant, contract, D&s, D/s, top, bottom, domination, erotic power, power exchange

dildo, butt plug, vibrator, sex, toy, steel, njoy, lube,

hand job
hand job, handjob, jacking off, beat off, manual sex, jack it, wack, masturbate,

Blow Job,
blowjob, blow job, blowjobs, blow jobs, felaltio, oral sex, fellatio, sucking, suck, lick, licking, hummer, bj, head

Anal play
rim job, butt fuck, sodomy, rectum,
anal, anus, anal sex, ass, ass sex, prostrate, stimulation, ass play, prostate massage

hanging, rigging, secure, tight, hemp, nylon, climbing, frame, swing, suspend, chain, shibari, knot, mfp, jute

rope bondage
hanging, rigging, secure, tight, hemp, nylon, climbing, frame, swing, suspend, chain, shibari, knot, mfp, jute, restraint, bondage, tie up, bind, bound, restraint, restrain

storing rope
organizing toys, organization

piss play, watersports, water sports, urine,

Flogging techniques
flogger, flogging, floggers, impact play, techniques, technique

do it yourself, do-it-yourself, DIY, make it yourself, kinky crafts, crafting, hand made

Long distance,
long distance relationship, online romance, long-distance,

Female Anatomy
pussy, vagina, vag, vulva, muff, cooter, poon, coochie, labia, clitoris, snatch, twat, g-spot, g spot,
twat, vag, box, muff, gash, beaver, snatch, clit, hole, minge, crotch,
internal, external, clit

Male Anatomy

penis, dick, cock, balls, scrotum, dong, schlong, boner, wiener, prick, wanker, willy, Johnston, ass, rectum, prostate, anal, anus, anal sex, ass, ass sex, p spot, p-spot,

Dragon Tail
whip, whiplike, punishment, dragontail, dragon-tail, dragon tail, rat tail, leather, impact, impact play, sadism, sadistic, pain

Fire Play
alcohol, fire, setting someone on fire, pyro, pyromaniac, pyrophilia, flame, flash, fire cups, flash paper, flash cotton, edge play, fireplay, fire play safety

nipple, breast, breasts, NT, nipple torture, clamps, clips, pinch, clothespins, nipple play, tits, zipper,boobs,

nipples torture
nipple, breast, breasts, NT, nipple torture, clamps, clips, pinch, clothespins, nipple play, tits, boobs, forceps, clover clamps, chopsticks, alligator clamps

cuddles, cuddle, cuddling, holding, connection, heal, warm, caress, after care, gentle, kisses, checking in

Sissy Training
sissy, sissify, sissification, sissy training, train my sissy, role-play, roleplay, role play, submissive, submission, sissy maid, sissymaid, sissy maid training, housekeeping, protocol, service, forced feminization, feminization

spank, spanking, spankee, spanko, smack, hit, punishment, corporal punishment, OTK, hand, paddle,

Ass, butt, buttocks, bum, dominant, top, bottom, submissive, bruising, anatomy, communication, vital organs, places to spank, places not to spank, ass-spanking

Electrical Play
TENS unit, violet wand, electro, electrosex, e-stim, estim, powerbox, power box, zap, shock, electrify, spark, AC, electrode,

New to the scene
new, newbies, new to the scene, newcomer, ettiquette

Submissive safety call

Enema Play
ass, anal, butt, liquid, cleaning, rim job, hygiene, anal sex preparation

Medical Play
needles, speculum, catheter, catheter, wartenberg wheel, medical role play, sounding, sounds, enema, enema bag, forceps, forcep, rubber gloves, examination, instruments, syringe,

kiss, kissing, making out, mouth, lips, snogging, french, macking, necking, sucking face, hickey, smooch, first base, tonsil hockey, foreplay, fore play, intimacy, intimate, sensual

Oral sex
lick, tongue, suck, mouth, head, bj, 69, eating out, fellatio, deep throating, gagging, cunnilingus

session, playtime, play time, play-time, set the mood, candles, music, safe word

multiple partners, relationships, relationship, swinging, swingers, poly, polygamy, polyandry, wife swapping, loves, menage trois, husband swapping, polyfilial, open relationship, leather household, inclusive relatnship, inclusive relatnship, multipartner relationship,

binder, waist cincher, corsets, underbust, boning, victorian, steam punk, tight lacing, waist training, goth, steel, girdle, bodice, busk, garter, cinching

Sexual Orientation
gay, straight, queer, bisexual, bi, homosexual, heterosexual, het, hetero, homo, pansexual, omnisexual, gender, boi, genderqueer, asexual, sexual identity,

strap on, strap-on, strapon, strapons, strap-ons, strap ons, dildo, harness, pegging, peg, sex, toys, ass sex, anal sex, Cock, dick, fuck, fucking, stamina,

Rubber, rubberwear, latex, latex clothing, fashion, clothes, silicone, shiner, shiny, shine, second skin, texture, fetish wear, slick, fitted, hood, mask,

submissive training
training, protocol, slave training,

Sex Ed
sexual education, sex ed, information, informative

degradation, degrade, humiliation, humiliate, tease, torment, embarrassed, mock, make fun of, abuse, verbal abuse, dishonor,

fat, big-boned, chubby, feeder, feederism, BBW,  big beautiful woman, fat pride, big beautiful women, fatism, sizism, big, fat lover

Impact play
dragontail, dragon tail, quirt, quirk, sting, thud, lash, welt, restrained, struck, flagellation, wrapping, Florentine, single tail, cane, paddle, fist, crop, corporal punishment, spanking, percussion play, bruising, marks, making bruises that last

Pony Play
animal play, animal, pet play, ponies, pony, pony play, pony boy, pony girl, pony training, human pony, tack, gait, grooming, riding, car, saddle, trainer, show pony, show ponies, equestrian, hoof boots, harness, bit, bridle, exhibition, tail, trot, canter, gallop, dressage

flogger, flogging, flog, impact play, corporal punishment

Force Feminization
ladyboy, sissy, cross dressing, sissification, feminine, age play, servitude, maid, school girl, secretary, locking, heels, dresses, naming, name change,

dream, secret, role play, surprise, thoughts,suspension of reality

Name calling
slut, whore, pig, tramp, bitch, insult, humiliation, nick name, pet name, words,

Foot fetish
high heels, foot, feet, socks, stockings, stinky, boots, sucking, licking, worship, socks, boots, shrimping,

Hair play
brushing, pulling, taken from behind, tug, handle bars, pig tails, school girl, care, exerting physical control

Breath Play
asphyxiation, breath control, gas mask, rebreather bag, suffocation, Breathe, breath, hold your breath, suffocate, plastic bag, pillow, mask, hood, hand over mouth,
, scarfing, erotic,

Rape Play
surprise sex, rape, rape play, rapeplay, consensual non-consent, forced, pretend resisting, role play, age play, ravishment, captivity

Surprise Sex
Rape, kidnap, intense, intensity, interrogation, emotional, emotion, unexpected, forceful, violent, safe words, safe word, safe, application, interrogate, bondage, consent, written consent, aftercare, past experiences, victim

Blood Play
vampire, vampyre, vampirism, vampyrism, cutting, needles, phlebotomy, drinking blood, blood fetish, blood sports, abrasion, scratching, piercing, temporary piercings, piercings, edge play, fear play, endorphins, scarfication, gauge

Sensational Play
sensual, touch, ice cubes, ice cube, wax play, physical, light, endorphins, flying, sensory, deprivation, mummification, tiger balm, breath mints, wintergreen, spearmint, peppermint, figging

Genital Torture
CBT, cock and ball torture, cunt torture, ball crusher, ball stretching, cock ring, cock rings, ball stretcher, ball stretchers, genital torture, torture, ball bust, scrotum, urethral, testicles, humbler, cock cage, cages, weights

belt, withheld, privilege, prevent, surrender,  control, custom, bespoke, cage, padlocks,
dominance, submission, orgasm, submit, training, lock, abstinance, tease and denial, celibacy, celibate

sploshing, Sitophilia, fruits, vegetables, meat, penetration, phallic, messy, Vore, food play, WAM, wet,

manners, educate, etiquette, behavior, rules,
Service, servitude, discipline, punishment, training, dominance, submission, submissive, dominant, dominate, submit, tone of voice, presentation, service oriented, respect

Stretch, stretching, healthy body, preparation, positions, anatomy, movement, muscles, strength, health, fitness, workout

exercise, workout, work out, health, fitness, movement, muscles, strength,


Age Plat Intro
naughty cheerleader, role playing, role play, little girl, ageplay, child play, fulfilling emotional needs, deeper, emotional, caregiver, care giver, emotional fulfillment, ageplayer, age player, letting go, forgetting stress, giving up control, sexual taboos, teacher and student, little, littles, big, daddy, mommy